Although there are innumerable definitions, all attempting to accurately describe the exact meaning of vibes and intuition, none seem to even remotely do justice to the depth of the concept. I believe that since these terms are highly subjective, the best that I can do is put forth my understanding of the same. There is a very thin line of difference between the two. While vibes are just an emotional state of being or energies emanating from a person or place, our gut feeling is the instinct that kicks in depending on the vibe of something, good or bad.
While most blatantly ignore vibes, I have always wondered whether they hold any meaning or are they just baseless energies? If baseless, how does my gut feeling always end up being correct?
The definition says it is merely a person’s emotional state or the atmosphere of a place but there have been recent discoveries suggesting otherwise. The uncertainty involved in identifying one’s vibes can debatably be characterised as one of the most difficult human experiences to define. Some places seem to have good vibes while some radiate bad vibes for no apparent reason. Moreover, it has been observed that an environment once filled with negative emotions exuded bad vibes later and vice-versa. This phenomenon is known as Emotional Residue, which explores whether an environment inherently “contains” leftover evidence of previous emotions.
It turns out that chemosignals, which are present in sweat and tears, can remain in the surrounding even in the absence of contact with the original source of the signals. This explains why we feel the positive or negative energies even before having any communication. Growing evidence suggests that human emotions are not only contagious, but also stay behind in the environment, potentially infecting or brightening surroundings even after the producer of that emotion has left.
Additionally, according to me, the vibes that you get from a particular person are subjective and speak more about you than said person. For instance, you may vibe with a person that I may not be comfortable with. The catch here is that your state of mind influences how you feel about other people more than the people themselves. It is, hence, extremely essential to be mindful of what we inadvertently attract. There are times when we attract toxic people because they are able to alter their aura and vibes as per the need of the situation. Thus, this concept evidently holds more importance than we think, considering the fact that a lot of people make essential life decisions on the basis of what they feel about a person.
Our gut feeling and instincts have a very meaningful impact on our personal and professional journey.
When it comes to making critical business decisions, many business leaders incorrectly think that it is solely a standard logical process that lacks human emotions and intuition. They have a data-driven mindset and rely heavily on numbers. However, in reality, humans make more effective decisions when they effectively combine their cognitive strength, emotions, and experience.
Personally, it takes me a little while to figure out the kind of vibes I am getting from a person and it usually depends on their body language. I have been in situations wherein my gut has advised me to end a conversation or leave a place as soon as possible but I have chosen, albeit reluctantly, for whatever reasons, to stay, and that has never ended well.
On the contrary, I was sceptical of a few people because their vibe confused me. However, eventually, I just trusted my gut feeling irrespective of the vibe and (not so) surprisingly, we now get along like a house on fire! In simpler words, sometimes people give a certain vibe depending on what they may be going through, mentally or physically, at that point in time, and it is important to give that benefit of doubt to every individual.
As far as I can tell, Malcom Gladwell, the author of the book ‘Blink’ has done justice to this concept. In a nutshell, he explains how our intuitive judgements made by our subconscious minds are far more superior than our conscious judgements. Furthermore, he introduces the idea of ‘thin slicing’ which explains how most of us use little pieces of information about a person to form a larger opinion which is ever so often, correct. Nevertheless, sometimes our conscious minds choose to believe what we are shown thoughtlessly because either we don’t want to face the truth or that the alternative presented to us is just convenient.
Of course, the idea of trusting your gut solely in high stakes situations, oftentimes, even against all logic, can be daunting, to say the least. In such circumstances, it always helps to talk to someone impartial who understands you. It is equally vital to ensure that this person is unaffiliated with the said situation so as to not colour his opinion/advice. This unassuming advice sometimes could be the difference between the best decision and an absolute disaster. By this, in no way do I mean for you to not trust your instincts but a second opinion when you are in two minds helps. This will also aid your understanding of your gut better, whether it is actually instinctual or just your judgement of the other person.
However, most people find it difficult to even get in touch with their instincts let alone act on it. Of course, none of this happens overnight and it is essential to first learn to acknowledge and then listen to your gut. That can take some practice — and often, some time. It certainly has for me. My inquisitive nature has helped me a lot. Sometimes, curiosity doesn’t kill the cat, it helps her thrive! I keep asking myself how I feel about a particular situation. I firmly believe that recognising your intuition about an event shouldn’t be a passive experience, you must constantly ask questions. You need to give your gut the requisite time and space to work. I’ve found out that mindfulness, meditation and yoga have helped me get in touch with my intuition. Regular meditation helps you clear your mind of distractions and teach you how to identify the subtle impulses from within. Connect with people you resonate with, with people who radiate positivity, though, in a world like ours, positivity is as rare as decent leaders. Your peers affect you more than you give them credit for. They affect the way you think, talk, act and feel. These are a few things that helped me connect to myself. Having said that, I understand that every individual functions differently and I encourage you, to explore what works best for you. I am only now beginning to understand what power my instincts and gut feelings truly possess and though I am still working on myself, I hope someday, I’ll meet you at our destination…
- Mahek Mehta